When we think of pregnancy and birth, these are not the words we want to think about. Yet, the reality is that, 1 in 4 pregnancies will end in a miscarriage, and 1 in 100 pregnancies will end in stillbirth.
Doula Support for Loss
Women and families facing these unimaginable circumstances deserve, and need, support. Adding on to the hormonal upheaval of pregnancy, labor, and delivery, is the range of emotions that come along with grief. It can be scary to face it all alone.
For this reason, one of our doulas, Kate, became a Certified Bereavement Doula through Stillbirthday in 2015. The training and certification associated with this program is specifically designed to teach skills and awareness about the ways to support families through a variety of impossibly difficult circumstances, from miscarriage, elective abortion, stillbirth, infancy loss, or the NICU.
What Does Bereavement Doula Support Look Like?
Imagine showing up to the ER, 8 weeks pregnant, and bleeding, only to be told there is no heartbeat?
Or hearing the devastating news at a 32 week OB appointment?
Or hearing a difficult diagnosis and having to make impossible and life-changing choices for your own health, and the comfort and future of your unborn baby?
Here are a few of the ways a Professional Bereavement Doula can support you:
- A listening, non-judgemental ear to process and validate the many, sometimes conflicting, emotions surrounding loss at any stage.
- Professional referrals to outside resources as necessary.
- Physical and emotional support through the labor, birth, and delivery itself, however that looks.
- Understanding of the normal physiology of labor, and pain management techniques.
- Assistance in learning and understanding your options at every stage.
- Guidance in saying hello, and goodbye to your little one in the way that feels best to you and your family.
- Help in creating a plan for long-term healing, physically, and emotionally.
- Time and space to grieve in an appropriate, and supported setting.
If you or someone you know is in need of Bereavement Doula support through a loss at any stage, please do not hesitate to contact us to learn about your options and resources in Dayton and CIncinnati.