Over my years as a doula, I have found that most people fall in one of three camps:
- The "What's a doula? Never heard of it." camp.
- The "Isn't a doula kind of like a midwife?" camp.
- The "OMG I love doulas! How cool!" camp.
A lot of times when families initially hire us, one partner is at least fairly familiar with who and what doulas are, while the other partner might not totally understand what this "doula" thing is all about. One of my favorite experiences is seeing people who may be more skeptical or unsure about doulas initially move through their experience working with us and come out the other side telling everyone and anyone who will listen about doulas!
Over the years, I've collected some pretty amazing descriptions of doulas. The beauty of it is, we can be many different things to different people, depending on their needs. Doulas are especially skilled at reading the room, and adapting to the ones they are serving in the moment. If you have your own description to add, please let us know in the comments!
Top 9 Descriptions of What It's Like to Have a Doula
- It's like having your childbirth education class in your back pocket.
- It's having a very knowledgeable person available 24/7 for your partner to be able to bitch to about pregnancy.
- It's a safety net so my family/partner can enjoy the experience, and not have to worry about remembering everything to do to help. It takes off a lot of pressure.
- It's like having a coach or a guide who has been there before help walk you through the process.
- It's like having an insurance plan for a calm, positive birth experience, no matter how happens goes.
- It's a safety net for the things I or my partner may not even realize I need until I need them in the moment.
- It's having a BFF who actually knows what they are talking about to help you figure out birth and postpartum and having a newborn.
- It's the person you can call late at night when you don't know who else to ask about what is going on with my body or baby.
- It's the one person who won't just tell me what they think I should do or what worked for them, but will help me figure out what I want to do!
How would you describe having a doula? What was the experience like for you? Let us know in the comments!