When Pregnancy Sucks (and Who Can Help You)

September 5, 2016

Written by guest blogger Julie Six of The Birth Haven and Baby Moon.

The joys of pregnancy are numerous, but so are the discomforts. The elation of a positive test gives way to the dread of finding a toilet close enough when nausea strikes and an incredibly sensitive gag reflex. The joys do continue to exist with the first sound of the heartbeat, the sonogram that gives you a sneak peek of your little one, and those initial kicks and movements that bring a smile to many. No matter how many exciting moments exist, the discomfort still abounds. After speaking with pregnant people over the years, here is what I’ve found to be true about pregnancy discomforts and ways to combat them for what may feel like an eternity.

It sucks.

There you have it. Pregnancy isn’t made up of unicorns and fairytales every second of every day.  It’s filled with vomit, constipation, backache, and more.  Sure, the little hints of beauty are sprinkled throughout, but it’s hard to focus on those when you’re running to the toilet with every jab of an elbow to your bladder.  Am I right? Finding a place of solace, like a yoga studio can help bring a meditative spirit and calm to even the most chaotic of days. If there is an overwhelming feeling of exhaustion and suckiness that prevails, embrace it through your meditative breaths. Namaste.

Just when you think you’ve got it all figured out…

The moment emerges when nausea subsides (for some), energy increases, and your hair looks better than it ever has before. You think that the discomforts are gone and you are free to enjoy the remainder of pregnancy. You’re coasting along without a care in the world and then, hemorrhoids.  These puffy and enraged bits of evil that appear without warning are a pregnant persons enemy. Tucks pads become a best friend and sitting gently becomes a new normal. Drink lots of water and be kind to yourself!

It’s difficult for a non-pregnant person to understand.

They just don’t get it and that’s fine as long as they give you an understanding nod and aren’t dismissive.  It’s difficult for a non pregnant person to understand how sipping water would cause indigestion, walking for 15 minutes could create swelling, and the smell of coffee could make someone gag. Fortunately, doulas understand and can be a constant source of encouragement as your body grows and adjusts.  They can be the perfect amount of encouragement that deflects the negativity of others. If you don’t have a doula, we are happy to help!

It’s an amazing scapegoat.

Need to get out of that family BBQ? Isn’t your meralgia paresthetica acting up again? How about those vicious PUPPS? What about nausea? You’ve got a myriad of plausible excuses to choose from and I dare anyone to question them.  Stay home, put your feet up, and get sucked into Netflix. Chomp on crunchy ice in the air conditioned comfort of your living room and have someone bring you back a plate of all the goodies. You’re growing a person and you deserve to take it easy when you wish.

There are ways to make it better.

If you don’t have a list of resources at your fingertips to help with the aches and pains of pregnancy, we’re here to help.

If you feel like your body is out of alignment, call Bright Futures Family Chiropractic. They know how to care for a pregnant body and all of the changes that it goes through. Proper alignment can ease the general aches and pains of pregnancy and can lead to feeling better as the months go on. Have a breech baby? Bright Futures also offers Webster certified adjustments to help your baby turn.

Struggling with morning sickness? Thrive Chiropractic offers acupuncture to ease and sometimes eliminate common discomforts of pregnancy. Be sure to reach out to them and hear about what they offer and how they can help make your pregnancy the best it can be!

Who could say no to a massage? Becoming Mom Spa offers pregnancy massages that people rave over. Whether you’re in need some specified bodywork, or just need an hour of pure relaxation, these places are sure to exceed your expectations.

Have a desire to get your yoga on? Be sure to stop by Sage Mama for stretches and breathing that will help bring you back into focus for the weeks to come. I’ve been told by many that yoga was the best thing they did to ease not only being uncomfortable during pregnancy, but also during the laboring process.

For more serious ailments, we always suggest seeking care from your Obstetrician or midwife. They will be able to make suggestions and offer pharmacologic options that can’t be found over the counter. They also know and understand contraindications to your specific care.

How are you coping with pregnancy discomforts? We’d love to hear about it in the comments.

Julie Six is the owner of The Birth Haven and Baby Moon. She is a certified labor and postpartum doula with ProDoula, a Certified Hypnobabies Childbirth Hypnosis instructor, and a member of the ProDoula Training and Development Team. She resides in the Lexington, KY area with her husband, three children, dog and 2 cats and loves serving women and families in the Bluegrass state.